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Avoidance

Life holds many challenges. It is impossible to go through life without facing a fair amount of experiences that can derail you from your path.  You have probably experienced plenty of uncomfortable circumstances and situations.  Whenever you are dealing with another person or another group of people, you can very well expect that you will come into conflict at some point.  My suggestion is to discern, then move towards resolving the conflict, avoiding drama.

Many times I find that people move away from challenges in relationships, in both romance and friendship, an unfortunate and unhealthy thing to do.  Avoidance is the safe and easy way out.  The most glaring issue that stands out to me is based on assumption and not reality.  The seemingly almighty ego gets in the way, convincing us that the easier path is to abandon the relationship.  Sadly, this only precipitates the opportunity for abandoning a relationship to repeat itself over and over again until the pattern is interrupted.  We will continue to get the lesson until our soul has evolved, completing its work in that area.

When you avoid conflict, you bury your true feelings in favor of keeping the peace, concealing how you really feel and bending to the will of others:  We don’t want to rock the boat and be judged by simply standing up for what we believe. You can best believe that after a while of avoiding, the built up resentment will hit a breaking point; bound to one day come thrashing forth, most probably over some small and insignificant issue.  This is a very unhealthy way to be in a relationship; not only do you avoid and repress how you really feel, but you also withhold from another person that which you truly feel, in short, you are lying.

When you find yourself in conflict with another person it is wise to listen carefully to what they have to say, remove yourself from the equation; become a third-person-observer.  When you become the third-person-observer, you are able to emotionally detach from the situation.  Understand that what you are hearing from this person has very little to nothing to do with you; they are telling you their story.  When you come to understand this you will begin to Interrupt The Pattern.

Explore The Process Of Avoidance