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Doing the right thing, making the right choice –

I am faced with it every day as are you; in business, friendships, intimate relationships, and with family.  The two principles we are faced with are “self-serving” and “self-centeredness”.  I believe “self-serving” has a domesticated mythical definition.  We cannot bring our best and serve others unless we serve ourselves.  A challenging process for me much of the time and the reason I have numerous guides, coaches, and advisors that serve as another pair of eyes as I walk my path.  So much of my work is striving to serve and support others, share and facilitate the growth and change people desire, it’s easy for me to lose track of my own path.  I must stay “self-serving”; on a constant path of growth that includes accountability and humility in all of my dealings.

When you are sitting in a circumstance or choice point your best action is to step away and become the “third party observer”.  When there are other people involved you must first look at your definition of love and I am not speaking of the socialized and domesticated definition of romantic love we have all been misled to believe in.  I am speaking to a love that no matter the situation you will make choices and support whatever is in the best interests of the person you declare a love and support for.  I would add that if you don’t have a level of love for those you work with and your friends because you feel “that’s different”, I would ask you to really take some time and reflect on what you understand as love.  In my experience our current accepted definition of love is what continues to create fractured relationships and families.

Here’s the challenge, and in challenge there are growth moments we can choose to embrace or avoid.  “But what about me?” you might ask.  Therein is where you get to look at your ego, and go even further into a clear understanding of abundance and scarcity.  Love and abundance go hand in hand.  Making a choice based on what is in the best interest of the “whole”, those around you, vs. a decision that is based solely on the part, “you”, is the constant challenge.  How is that self-serving?  It’s coming from a space of abundance and releasing a vibration and energy that will only attract those same supportive experiences for you when you are faced with another challenging situation that may not even be related.

Do the right thing, make the right choice.  Don’t be attached to the fact a choice made in the best interest of the “whole” may cost you money, when a “right” choice will have a huge positive effect on someone else.  Believe me the universe will serve you with all you need when you walk this path.

Do the right thing, make the right choice.  When a relationship isn’t going the way you want it to, someone has decided there is a better direction for their life, support that person.  There is no upside to bitterness or resentment.  Trust that this is part of something even greater for you.  I’ve personally faced this challenge as I am sure we all have at some level.  After the dust settles and the emotions that held you hostage calm, you’ll see how it was magical and part of your path.  Things always work out, you just don’t know how sometimes.

I don’t have all the answers, nor do I walk the perfect path.  I do know that I am constantly experiencing a high level of consciousness and guidance from others as life appears for me.  I share with you what I see work time and time again.

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