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I Can’t

…..and I wonder what it is that keeps me in this space, the space I want so desperately to get out of!

How many times over the past week have you heard these words declared by yourself or others? How about that little voice inside your head that keeps holding you back because you believe that “you can’t”?

I have learned that words are symbols: Further, words have become a part of an unconsciousness script that we follow on a daily basis; it is our programming, which becomes a habit, which is ultimately what we accept to be fact. The two simple words “I can’t” hold many of us hostage in our own personal prison; ironically, we hold the key! Let’s see if we can Interrupt The Pattern and find the key to unlock an inspiration to say, “I can” where you couldn’t before.

Programming:

We were primed in our early years to figure out what we can do because we were constantly told what we can’t do. Innocent and carefree, we were told “no”, “don’t”, and “you can’t”. This program created a tape recording, deep within us in our very early years. Unfortunately, there is no magic delete button you can push to make it go away. We retain recordings made in our early years which create experiences we carry with us, whether consciously or unconsciously, for the rest of our life. We have the power to choose a different recording, this takes vigilance; constant re-recording over old programming. Affirmations are a very powerful way to reprogram: A statement in the present tense that to you, may seem unbelievable at first, but when said over and over becomes a belief, then a knowing and, finally, a reality.

Self-Destruct Mode:

I see it time and time again. I reflect on my life frequently and have come to know that I was the poster child of self-destruction. When things were going good, and I got exactly what I had hoped for, suddenly . . . voila! . . . I would self-destruct it every time! I came to understand that by being mindful enough, I could avoid self-destruction; this is something I must be conscious of every day.

The first step:

I must be willing to take self-responsibility, own all outcomes and experiences; past and present, good and bad. Then and only then do I have the ability to go deeper and discover the root of my self-destructive repetitive cycle.

If we are in a cycle of blaming outside forces for our condition, outside forces will persist; our life takes on the qualities of riding in a bumper car, we simply react to the next car that bumps into us!

What history are you continuing to repeat? What within you makes you feel as if this is the best you get to experience in this short time on earth?

Fear of Judgment:

Our #1 human need is to be loved, recognized, and acknowledged. We are wired to believe that validation comes from others, when it actually comes from within. Validation, like anything, has its duality; it can serve you, and it can work against you. Positive feedback can be inspiring and it provides a boost to keep charging forward, improving, and believing we are on the “right track”. Unfortunately, it can become a drug and eventually you will have the need to chase acknowledgment and validation from others for your next “fix” . This can create an “emotional hostage” situation where each day has to be mapped out, and designed; subtle decisions are contrived in order to get that next “pat on the back”. This happens quite often without you even knowing it because it becomes an unconscious choice you have made.

Is this really living in inspiration from our authentic selves, or is it living for everyone else? What makes you happy? Do you know what happiness is? After reading this are you discovering that you have a false sense of what happy is? Freedom to be yourself is the ultimate form of happiness! When you are living in your authentic-self, you are released from the bondage created by a false-self which seeks the approval of others! In turn you will then become an inspiration to those around you!

Be Vigilant, Take Responsibility, and Be Brave.

Be Vigilant:

Write down everything you believe you can’t do, are not doing, and that which you have doubts about doing. Sit down and write until you can’t think of anything else to write. Then, step away for 24 hours. Revisit the list and see if there is anything you left out and, oh, don’t forget to write down EVERYTHING that EVERYONE around tells you that you are not, can’t do, or can’t be! Now wright down the absolute opposite in present tense starting each phrase with “I am”. Burn (literally) the list of what you are not, can’t be etc. Next, read the list of “I am’s” 3 times a day.

Take Responsibility:

“I own every experience and outcome therefore I can change it”. That’s for starters. You gotta believe it and if you don’t you get to do some re-programming until you believe it. Look deep, deep within at every outcome, excluding everyone and everything around you, and then determine how you created it. Believe me, you can find where you created it, sometimes it’s as simple as choice you made. Let me give you an example:

“I hate my job, my boss is a jerk” Well you chose the job and accepted the position with the jerk.

Be Brave:

Social media sure isn’t helping us nowadays, it seems so many people today are measuring their worth by the number of “likes” they get, friends, or followers . . . but I digress. This part is simple but it’s not easy. We wanted to be the “popular kid” in school; maybe we were, maybe we were not. Then, we got thrown right onto the treadmill: More and better by comparison to everyone else. The spin-cycle continued: They have this car I want that car; their house is this big I want bigger, they have a lake cabin we need one. I know it well; I have played that game . . . Let’s see . . . all I got from that was worn out and out of touch! Are you getting tired yet? Get quiet, get conscious, and discover what you want and what makes you happy. When you are in the stillness of all you can imagine; you are on to something!

Be inspired, and Interrupt your Pattern!

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