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Knowing your roots:  Going Deep –

When you look at your pattern, what you are trying to interrupt, you must unravel the past in order to get to the root of your behavior.  In many cases we know the pattern but fail to dig deep enough into our past to understand where, when and how the pattern manifested.   A good, hard look at your history will reveal the core belief that keeps you locked into your pattern, once you have discovered the core belief you can then bring light into your darkness, you can understand yourself, your pattern and the core belief holding you back.  This often painful journey into yourself can be daunting.  Know that it is the only way to release yourself, to begin the interrupt.

There are many ways to get to the core, one is to ask yourself some very important questions like: When did I start this pattern?  Who in my childhood had this pattern or treated me in the way my pattern treats me?  Why did I start this pattern, what was I thinking and or feeling at the time?  Who do I know, from the past or present that shares this pattern?  How does this pattern serve/harm myself?  How does this pattern serve/harm others?

Answering these questions may not be as easy as you think. You are locked into a pattern of behavior for a reason and usually that reason is because you don’t want to feel pain, rejection, abandonment, hurt, shame or anger.  Your pattern quite often will numb your feelings, protecting you from  reliving or remembering the negative feelings you have about yourself or that others have shifted on to you.

There is a certain kind of comfort in your pattern.  Whatever it is, your pattern serves you by keeping you from feeling or facing something you would rather not feel.  Your pattern also cripples you in some way, making you dysfunctional, hurting yourself and others.  It is a double edged sword and if you can dig deep enough, you will be able to understand it and yourself on a very profound level.

Your pattern binds you; it locks you in, it takes part of you hostage, it’s main purpose in your life is to protect you from ever feeling the hurt that you have buried deep into your subconscious.  It takes courage and a willingness to be vulnerable, it takes great effort and it takes honesty to go inside and into the past to unravel yourself and it is the only way to freedom from it.

Starting to unravel your pattern may be difficult to do at first, but once you begin the road becomes very clear.  A good way to start is to journal specifically about finding the source.  Begin with the afore mentioned questions, answer them honestly….no one but you needs to see your answers, this is for your eyes only.

Go into your childhood and remember as much as you can about how others treated you, what situations you can remember that were negative and positive around you.  Listen to the present moment situation, journal about your pattern, how it affects you and others.  Before long you will be off and running, unravelling your pattern and understanding how, when and why you started it.  Once you get there it becomes easier to interrupt it.

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