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Moving Out of Fear –

I believe everything we do in life comes from one of two emotions; Love or Fear.

If you examine your past and present experiences, thoughts, actions and doings you will come to realize whether you are acting out of fear or out of love. I know it seems very basic, and indeed it is.

Take any one situation from your past or present experiences and replay it in your mind, or better yet, write it out. Recall the full detail of that experience as if it were happening in this moment, be as clear as you can with your feelings about the experience. Once you have played it out fully, ask yourself this question……”Did I come from a place of fear or a place of love?” The answer is glaringly obvious when you break it down to the basics.

Coming from a place of fear means many things; that you do not trust yourself, others, or the process of life, that you are coming from a place of lack, judgement or guilt, that your very survival is being threatened, or that you wish to hurt, punish or diminish yourself or others. Fear is a very unstable place to be and to act from; it is a powerful weapon that can hurt, wound, even kill, and yet unconsciously we seem to reach for fear when we REACT. It is a no-brainer, literally! When we REACT we are using a small portion of our brain, the reptilian brain: this part of the brain is activated by fear! It is the fight or flight survival mechanism. It takes almost no effort to react and mostly our reactions are in the vibration of fear.

The reptilian brain kicks in automatically, most times it is impossible to interrupt it before it happens, because most times it kicks in with no conscious thought. The interruption can only happen when you recognize it has been activated. This means, once again, incorporating the magic pause. Once you have identified the reptilian brain kick in it becomes paramount that you incorporate the secondary step to the magic pause….you step outside of yourself and observe what you are experiencing. When you have successfully brought yourself to the place of the third person you can ask yourself, “do I want to come from a place of fear or a place of love?” The choice is always there for you.

Coming from a place of love means having to put forth effort. It means putting yourself in someone else’s shoes to see the situation in a holistic way. When you are able to see the situation from the other person’s point of view, you almost instantly know how to respond with love and care. “What would love do?”, “How can I handle this with gentle kindness?” “What is the best way for me to love myself and this other person?”. When you shift your awareness from your self to the whole picture, you can easily understand how to come from love. When you stop making yourself a victim, when you stop the need to lash out, when you interrupt the fight or flight mechanism, you are ready to step into the wonder and beauty of love. Love will show you the way, if you ask it too, and the more you practice stepping out of fear and into love, the more automatic it will become.

Explore The Process of moving out of fear!