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Sober Up –

We all have an area in life we can “sober up”. An area of life that may be challenging, dark or we just know that we need to face….accept….and deal with. Maybe it’s as simple as doing something better than we are currently.

I had many…I still do…and always will. How exciting is that? I get to strive and grow every single day. Alcohol was not my problem and to this day, is not… nor will it ever be. I am the problem. I get to work on me every single day. I have control over that.

Sobriety is bigger than me…its a privilege. With any privilege …to maintain it…and grow in it…we must hold a constant spirit of gratitude. I’ve tried all the male energies of discipline, commitment, etc. they exhausted me and created a roller coaster ride. Gratitude is flow. It’s acceptance for, and of all. When I discovered and focused on an energy of gratitude the discipline and commitment started to unfold naturally.

Sometimes we over think and over work seeing past all we need being right in front of us ..if we would just allow instead of operate in force. Does this mean we don’t have to work at it? Absolutely not. It’s what we do when no one is looking that determines what is appearing in all areas of life. We just need to learn to power down, slow down, get in the quiet and hear our thoughts. Our person that is meant to appear in our highest version of self is being drowned out by the noise we are allowing to control us.

We need to take personal responsibility for any and all experiences in our life. Until we do this we will wander the path as a victim of circumstances. We can’t just pick and choose what we are responsible for otherwise we move from a life of creation to a life of reaction. We need to sober up….be aware….recognize what is being reflected back to us…not happening to us…rather to teach us and then respond to the signs, signals snd cues.

Acceptance: our biggest obstruction in life is not the lack of love from others and sense of belonging. It starts with love of self. We can’t love one another in a way that is fulfilling and inspiring until we love every fabric of self. This is the journey. This is the work. We must stop rejecting those parts of us we are embarrassed about. Those parts we must hide because we will be rejected and judged. We are stifled by the energy we exhaust to hide and mask what we are so worried someone might see or know about us. When we accept that is part of who we are…we no longer reject self..it will begin to shape us…we are set free. And those that don’t accept us as we show up in our raw self…they are not our people…and most likely they have not yet done the work to “sober up” and accept all of who they are. I get it. I rejected every part of who I was for 41 years. It was painful. Today I’m free. I know every bit of my darkness shapes who I am becoming every single day.

One of my rituals in the above principles is to continually go back and read my journal from the darkest day of my life that became the lighthouse for my future and today. July 21, 2008. The day I got sober. Yes I visit it often. The day I went back and forth to the hospital 3 times from rehab because they couldn’t get my blood pressure stable due to the alcohol withdrawal aka DT’s.

I was rock bottom. Deaths doorstep. A broken soul. I was scared and embarrassed. I had given up…that dark day shaped me. It does to this day. It has created every wonderful experience I have in my life today and will in the future.

Sober Up. Look at yourself honestly. Take Responsibility. Do the personal work daily. Stop suppressing and rejecting who you are. It will only continue to haunt you. Be grateful for every trying experience in life…its here as a doorway to a magical life beyond your wildest dreams.

Be grateful…discipline and commitment will unfold…and ask…what area of your life do you need to sober up?