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The Cords of Emotional Wounds . . . We All Need to Be Heard

The greatest challenges showing up in your life today are connected to a cord that goes back to an experience or moment when you were emotionally wounded.  There is an emotional wound in some shape or form keeping your inner-child (all of the sum of mental-emotional memories stored in the sub-conscious from conception thru pre-puberty) from being brought into its fullness of adulthood.  We can’t grow psychologically, emotionally, or mentally to our highest self, there is a stopping of our emotional growth that took place at that moment.  It can even happen into adulthood in cases of emotional hardship and addiction.  The moment we experience something traumatic or get trapped into addiction, the growth of our inner-child is paused.

What we then experience in our lives are patterns we repeat connected to the experience or a choice we made.  In adulthood, anything painful; rejection, dishonesty, etc. that touches our emotions triggers us and takes us back to that moment, consciously or unconsciously.  There was a stopping of our emotional growth.  We relate all moments of pain to that experience in our history because we have not dealt with it, accepted it, and gained resolution.

“That which we resist persists”

In our social media age we experience a barrage of motivational quotes and messaging.  How often do you peel it back and see or feel how it relates to your journey or what it really means?  The soul is patient and is here to serve you.  Everything showing up in your life is an experience to evolve your soul . . . Everything.

The soul will deliver moments in your life space until you experience the growth necessary to vibrate at a higher frequency and Interrupt The Pattern.

When faced with the challenging moments in life, what is your go to? How do you work through it? What is your ‘self-talk’? One of the great lessons taught to me was to no longer resist, to accept and embrace all things that I am experiencing.  Experiences are neither bad nor good, they just are and what they are is for us to evolve our soul. You will have an interesting discovery the moment you make the declaration to evolve to your highest self.  Life will serve up opportunities for you to evolve.  I can remember sitting in pre-op just this last year with my daughter prior to one of her many heart surgeries.  After it seemed all was good to go and they were ready to wheel her off for her 23rd surgery, the anesthesiologist had one more disclosure to make, “Due to the number of times your daughter has received a certain blood thinner in surgeries she is now at risk going forward in surgery the body will reject the blood thinner (which we must continue to use) and die.”  I immediately went to response mode vs. react mode.  I became aware of my breathing and my internal ‘self-talk’, “How is this here to evolve my soul, How is this here to evolve my soul”.  I couldn’t tell you how many times I said it over and over.  I do know focusing on my breathing and repeating this mantra over and over again supported me through a challenging time.

We must arm ourselves with tools so that we can respond (be responsible), instead of react and lose self.

Create a visual . . . a hologram of yourself when an emotionally painful experience happened and ask yourself how you felt.  We all want to be heard, but many times we are uncomfortable sharing.  Journaling is an exercise that gives us an opportunity to be heard.  A critical element of journaling is to write that which is inside of you and is killing you. You need to get it outside of you and hear what you feel.  Write it down and then read it out loud.  This is an exercise in being heard.  We now deal with and start to heal those experiences that have stunted our emotional growth.  Journaling creates a new rhythm for self to face things safely.

Affirm before writing, “I’m in a safe place. I feel anything I need to experience for myself, my higher self will take me there and whatever I need to heal I will only experience what I’m capable of healing right now.”

Make journaling a daily ritual. Face your darkness and pain in a new way of discovering how that contrast has served you today.  Write down all the benefits you have experienced from your past challenging moments. With all things there is duality . . . where there is darkness there is light . . . where there is bad there is good.

Heal the emotional wounds of your inner child and Interrupt The Pattern showing up and not serving you today.

Explore The Process of healing your emotional wounds!